Comments - How do you face your fears down? - massage and bodywork professionals2024-03-28T14:58:56Zhttps://massageprofessionals.com/profiles/comment/feed?attachedTo=2887274%3ABlogPost%3A74675&xn_auth=noFYI-the universe made my deci…tag:massageprofessionals.com,2010-04-12:2887274:Comment:767562010-04-12T11:46:49.096ZKelly Groundshttps://massageprofessionals.com/profile/KellyGrounds
FYI-the universe made my decision for me since I wouldn't make. The director left suddenly due to health issues and the school had no choice but to send me in as director. I'm calling it our '90 day try-before-you-buy' period. So far, so good. Is there a discussion group here for program directors? LOL
FYI-the universe made my decision for me since I wouldn't make. The director left suddenly due to health issues and the school had no choice but to send me in as director. I'm calling it our '90 day try-before-you-buy' period. So far, so good. Is there a discussion group here for program directors? LOL Best of luck, hope it goes be…tag:massageprofessionals.com,2010-03-30:2887274:Comment:749232010-03-30T12:35:01.367ZStephen Jeffreyhttps://massageprofessionals.com/profile/StephenJeffrey
Best of luck, hope it goes better than you could ever have of imagined.
Best of luck, hope it goes better than you could ever have of imagined. As Vlad said, what's the wors…tag:massageprofessionals.com,2010-03-30:2887274:Comment:748552010-03-30T01:44:04.651ZErica Olsonhttps://massageprofessionals.com/profile/EricaOlson
As Vlad said, what's the worst that could happen? What does "failure" look like to you in this circumstance? Figure out the absolute worst-case scenario and ask yourself if you could live with it. (If you can, you'll be fine.) Also figure out ways to avoid or mitigate those situations you are apprehensive about--at least, the ones you can control. (You can't really control whether or not your students and co-workers like you, so don't even bother thinking about it. They will or they…
As Vlad said, what's the worst that could happen? What does "failure" look like to you in this circumstance? Figure out the absolute worst-case scenario and ask yourself if you could live with it. (If you can, you'll be fine.) Also figure out ways to avoid or mitigate those situations you are apprehensive about--at least, the ones you can control. (You can't really control whether or not your students and co-workers like you, so don't even bother thinking about it. They will or they won't.)<br />
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YOU are going to have to be the one to set boundaries and stick with them, whether that is the amount of time you will allow to work to take over your life or whether you will accept the owner's communication style and/or allow it to interfere with your health.<br />
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A couple of suggestions:<br />
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With regards to your family, you (and your husband/family) sit down and write out some strict guidelines about how much work you can bring home and under what circumstances, what is allowable and what is not. Say, if you've got a guest speaker or big workshop coming up, you're allowed 10 at-home work hours in the week leading up to it--but family/kid activities <i>always</i> take priority (kid's got a concert the night before? Too bad for work--go be with your family, and be fully present when you do so).<br />
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Afraid that things aren't going to work out and you'll be fired from the school completely, no longer allowed to teach, and given a bad reference? Put in your employee contract (assuming that you have one) that these sorts of things are not allowed--no retribution and at worst, they can only confirm that worked for them.<br />
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Additionally, what with the current director stepping down earlier than expected, you've probably got them in a bit of a bind. Not only that, but you don't really care much one way or the other whether or not you get the director's position--hell, you're leaning the other way! Coming from a position of strength allows you to "make demands" that will give you a more favorable position. For example, if you have difficulty with confrontation or being yelled at, you might consider sitting down with the owner and letting her know that although you will take the job, she needs to communicate in X, Y, and Z types of manner and not via volume. If she does this, it will be more productive (and healthier emotionally and physically for you). If she can't stick to that, quit. It's like being on the receiving end of a verbally abusive relationship--you don't deserve it, you don't have to take it, and you have the freedom to leave at any time. If you've set up an escape clause in your contract, then you've nothing to fear. Kelly - good luck!tag:massageprofessionals.com,2010-03-30:2887274:Comment:748492010-03-30T00:19:46.397ZVladhttps://massageprofessionals.com/profile/Vlad
Kelly - good luck!
Kelly - good luck! Well, the current director ma…tag:massageprofessionals.com,2010-03-29:2887274:Comment:748382010-03-29T23:20:17.751ZKelly Groundshttps://massageprofessionals.com/profile/KellyGrounds
Well, the current director made today her last day due to family reasons. I stepped in and will be taking over. Yikes! I'm excited but nervous. Wish me luck.
Well, the current director made today her last day due to family reasons. I stepped in and will be taking over. Yikes! I'm excited but nervous. Wish me luck. I fear making mistakes
Yep, I…tag:massageprofessionals.com,2010-03-29:2887274:Comment:748152010-03-29T21:35:37.697ZVladhttps://massageprofessionals.com/profile/Vlad
<i>I fear making mistakes</i><br />
Yep, I can relate to that - I bet we all can.<br />
It's a big step, but you wouldn't have been offered the job if the owner didn't think you were up to it.<br />
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<i>My fear is taking this job and failing.</i><br />
You said it again! So really, if we're reading between the lines here, it's failure that's really what your'e worried about the most, right?<br />
<b>What's the worst that can happen</b>? If you don't like it, you can leave. Would that really be the end of the world?<br />
"Fear of…
<i>I fear making mistakes</i><br />
Yep, I can relate to that - I bet we all can.<br />
It's a big step, but you wouldn't have been offered the job if the owner didn't think you were up to it.<br />
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<i>My fear is taking this job and failing.</i><br />
You said it again! So really, if we're reading between the lines here, it's failure that's really what your'e worried about the most, right?<br />
<b>What's the worst that can happen</b>? If you don't like it, you can leave. Would that really be the end of the world?<br />
"Fear of failure". If we all let it rule our lives then nothing would ever get done, new experiences would never be felt, we'd never take risks and no progress would ever be made.<br />
Fear of failure is sometimes such a motivator too. You've got 2 master degrees and one of them is in administration. If anything, you're probably over-qualified for the job!<br />
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Bringng in rules is good for everyone and enforcing rules brings respect (just as long as they're illogical ones!) so I doubt you'll have much issue with the students. Dealing with a bad tempered boss is a different situation though.<br />
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It's a big questions alright, I'm not saying one way or the other because really I don't know you, but I just get a virtual vibe that you'll do a great job and I also get the vibe that you could do anything you put your mind to.<br />
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Having said all that, I think that in situations like this I go with the gut. What's your gut saying? Sometimes it helps me to sit…tag:massageprofessionals.com,2010-03-29:2887274:Comment:747802010-03-29T17:53:29.643ZEmma Torseyhttps://massageprofessionals.com/profile/EmmaTorsey
Sometimes it helps me to sit down and write a list of pros and a list of cons.It may help you to see it written.<br />
Best wishes with your decision .<br />
Emma
Sometimes it helps me to sit down and write a list of pros and a list of cons.It may help you to see it written.<br />
Best wishes with your decision .<br />
Emma Its easy to see why you would…tag:massageprofessionals.com,2010-03-29:2887274:Comment:747762010-03-29T17:28:57.254ZStephen Jeffreyhttps://massageprofessionals.com/profile/StephenJeffrey
Its easy to see why you would want to give sensible consideration this position, however you mention the risks to your health and family, you already beat a brain tumor !! = maybe to many cons ?<br />
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Would not an assistant director position be a more suitable step ?
Its easy to see why you would want to give sensible consideration this position, however you mention the risks to your health and family, you already beat a brain tumor !! = maybe to many cons ?<br />
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Would not an assistant director position be a more suitable step ?