Throughout the years of receiving massage, bodywork, energy work, facials and other spa treatments, I have had some exceptional experiences from some truly gifted people. I've also met a number of people in the spa and healing arts industry (and the fringes) that have touted themselves as "healers" - a term and practice that immediately turns me off and makes me question their authenticity. Worse still, some of these folks wear their own pain on their sleeve making it abundantly clear to anyone they come in contact with that not only they are a healer, but they are a "wounded healer." Gag me.
Why do I react this way? In my experience, most of those who have a true gift are more humble and client-centered rather than ego-based and centered. Their caring and desire to help others comes from a deep place of compassion and understanding rather than a need to brag, be lifted up or have their ego stroked. Anyone who has to tell you how gifted they are (and how wounded) is clearly not putting their intention and energies on the client first. Though this type of behavior can sometimes come from people new to the healing arts who will eventually wise up - sooner rather than later I hope - it is not only ego-centric but also largely ineffective and in some cases can be unethical.
My friend and colleague, Laura Allen, shared this video with me a few days ago and I think it gives a very clear example of what the highest form
of The Wounded Healer
can be. Hope you enjoy it, share with others, and take the information in it to heart.
Click here to watch the video
If you can't see it is is also on my blog
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