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OK...i knew that would get this group's attention!!
so i was at my bike club's holiday party last night and i got to talking to someone that i have only seen on our message boards but never talked to in person.
when i first came onto the Dallas biking scene, i was just starting school for massage and not practicing. my personality and humor has always been a little provokative and i LOVE sexual banter. since becoming an MT I have curtailed my humor on that forum because my fear was that i wouldn't be taken seriously as an MT and i'd be inviting the wrong clientele.
so last night this guy had mentioned how i don't banter nearly as much anymore on the forum. i explained why.
well it got me thinking...is it fair that an MT has to be more reserved (so to speak) even in their personal lives because of what we do for a living? i'm sure if i were a chiro or PT i could easily continue with my type of humor without concern on how it would affect the perception of who I am in my professional life.
figured i'd throw out the discussion here versus the main forum where people are less rowdy. :)
so i was at my bike club's holiday party last night and i got to talking to someone that i have only seen on our message boards but never talked to in person.
when i first came onto the Dallas biking scene, i was just starting school for massage and not practicing. my personality and humor has always been a little provokative and i LOVE sexual banter. since becoming an MT I have curtailed my humor on that forum because my fear was that i wouldn't be taken seriously as an MT and i'd be inviting the wrong clientele.
so last night this guy had mentioned how i don't banter nearly as much anymore on the forum. i explained why.
well it got me thinking...is it fair that an MT has to be more reserved (so to speak) even in their personal lives because of what we do for a living? i'm sure if i were a chiro or PT i could easily continue with my type of humor without concern on how it would affect the perception of who I am in my professional life.
figured i'd throw out the discussion here versus the main forum where people are less rowdy. :)
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Permalink Reply by Marissa on
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I think it all depends on what "image" you want to throw out there and where you are at the time. I'm a natural born sexual bantering fool! There's been many a time that I've said something and decided later I probably should have bit my tongue. For instance: I was working on a 19 year old, attractively built young man, and he started talking about dating. One of his requirements was height, of which he informed my married self that I was his height preference, and I promptly blurted out that maybe he should walk around wearing a t-shirt that says "you must be this tall to ride". HMMMMM...... There's one for the oops books.
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Permalink Reply by Stephen Jeffrey on
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Hi Lisa
yes I do think you have to be a little conservative on pubic forums as people will be inclined to get the wrong idea. I've long expected a sheperds crook to come along and yank me off to some sort of diciplinary hearing such is my paranioah over these things????
Marissa I'm one of those guys that doesn't need a T shirt to prominately display sexual preferences as all women can see the words "desparate give wide birth" apparently tatood on my forehead lol.
Marissa just how long are those legs of yours? -
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Actually, I'm 5'9. Taller than the average female. There must be some Amazon blood in my background... or maybe it's just all the Swedish. Who knows?!?!? It's rather amusing at the salon though, most of the girls are 5'4 and under. I can see over everyone's heads! :) Guess who gets all the top shelves?
Marissa just how long are those legs of yours? -
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Lisa- it sounds as though this fellow was a little disappointed. Any prospects?
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Permalink Reply by Lisa on
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hahaha...maybe a little disappointed that i wasn't bantering anymore, but nothing more there. just another married one. :)
there were a couple of prospects at the party. one texted me for a booty call about 11 at night after the party. hahaha might have taken him up on it if he wasn't well trashed and going through a divorce. you know what they say about rebound. and well i've already paid my dues to the rebound phenomenum. i don't want to go there.
the other was apparently singe, cute and very chatty with me. so i gave him my business card and said "you know where to find me". so we'll see.
Marissa Macias said:Lisa- it sounds as though this fellow was a little disappointed. Any prospects? -
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Permalink Reply by Bianca Berrios on
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Marissa thanks for morning laugh! LMFAO...love it
Marissa Macias said:I think it all depends on what "image" you want to throw out there and where you are at the time. I'm a natural born sexual bantering fool! There's been many a time that I've said something and decided later I probably should have bit my tongue. For instance: I was working on a 19 year old, attractively built young man, and he started talking about dating. One of his requirements was height, of which he informed my married self that I was his height preference, and I promptly blurted out that maybe he should walk around wearing a t-shirt that says "you must be this tall to ride". HMMMMM...... There's one for the oops books. -
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Permalink Reply by Erica Olson on
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In a word, NO.
As a matter of fact, I don't live any more conservatively because I'm an MT. If anything, it's because I'm in a small town and there's less opportunity for me to get out there and "misbehave."
I am an earthy, bawdy person with a corresponding sense of humor. I do censor myself a bit in session--at least, until I get to know my client well--but that's because I don't want to make them uncomfortable or be judged for having an extremely unusual personal life. Most of the time, that part of my life doesn't have much relevance to my professional life, so there's no need for them to know.
However, I don't hide who I am. When there's a fire show at the hot springs, I don't advertise that I'll likely be spinning topless at some point, but I do make them aware that it is clothing-optional after dark . . . and that we spin after dark. What happens in session stays in session; what happens outside generally stays outside. If someone brings up, "Oh, I saw you at X place doing Y thing," I acknowledge it but without shame.
As for people thinking the wrong thing? When I make bawdy jokes and someone tries to tie it in to my profession, I laugh and say that I don't do THAT kind of massage and that they need to look in the escort section for that. -
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*laugh* Are you kidding me? That's awesome!
Marissa Macias said:I think it all depends on what "image" you want to throw out there and where you are at the time. I'm a natural born sexual bantering fool! There's been many a time that I've said something and decided later I probably should have bit my tongue. For instance: I was working on a 19 year old, attractively built young man, and he started talking about dating. One of his requirements was height, of which he informed my married self that I was his height preference, and I promptly blurted out that maybe he should walk around wearing a t-shirt that says "you must be this tall to ride". HMMMMM...... There's one for the oops books. -
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So, how would you guys respond to this?
I have a weekly gentleman who is old enough to be my father and we have a good therapist/client relationship. I was running a couple of minutes late and he made himself comfortable in the massage room. The girls informed me he was back there when I got in. I popped in and said, "Sorry I'm running late!". He promptly replied, "I wasn't sure if you were coming or not, thinking I messed up the time, but it wouldn't be the first time that I got naked and nobody showed up!"
Me? Immediately burst out laughing! I couldn't stop snickering the entire session! -
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I would be rollin!!
to me...the fact that he can joke like that comfortably with you means you've done your job well!! that shows the level of trust he has in you which correlates to him being able to let go and truly get the best from the session.
Marissa Macias said:So, how would you guys respond to this?
I have a weekly gentleman who is old enough to be my father and we have a good therapist/client relationship. I was running a couple of minutes late and he made himself comfortable in the massage room. The girls informed me he was back there when I got in. I popped in and said, "Sorry I'm running late!". He promptly replied, "I wasn't sure if you were coming or not, thinking I messed up the time, but it wouldn't be the first time that I got naked and nobody showed up!"
Me? Immediately burst out laughing! I couldn't stop snickering the entire session! -
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That would be me, too. *grin*
Marissa Macias said:Me? Immediately burst out laughing! I couldn't stop snickering the entire session! -
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Marrisa thats a great one ! LoL.............Bloomin heck I just realized me an the old fella share a problem . cept when I get naked to go to bed I knows for sure aint nobody turning up..................Steve fears another quite spell looms.....sigh.
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